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The 9 habits of insanely likable and charismatic people


  1. They are empathetic
  2. They are humble
  3. They are vulnerable
  4. They have a sense of humor
  5. They are present
  6. They are genuinely interested in EVERYONE
  7. They avoid social narcissism
  8. They are generous and altruistic
  9. They reciprocate praise (and take blame)

What I love the most about this HubSpot article is the reminder of how important other people are to our success. Our emotional success. Our professional success. Our relationship success. To me, I see this article summed up in the practice of simply putting the needs of others first. I’m a Cliffs-Notes-kind-of-gal, so if you are like me, that’s my gift to you regarding this rather lengthy article. This image helps you understand the effects of our psychological desire to belong, as illustrated in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs:

Maslow's hierarchy of needs

I love the reminder to focus on others first to deflect the naval gazing that can quite literally trip me up in my life. When I’m about to give a speech or introduce someone at a conference, I struggle to let go of my desire for others to like me and think I’m good at public speaking. But this makes me nervous. If I focus on what I can give to the audience, what I can give to the person I’m introducing, how I can serve my community with information, this makes the speech about them, not me. It removes most of the nerves. But man, it doesn’t make public speaking easy!

I’m going to recommit to these habits. Will you join me?

I’m not perfect. I need reminders, too. But what I also know, is when I practice these traits, I feel good. I feel better. I know that others feel good when they interact with me. I’m less anxious. I’m more focussed. My work is higher quality.

What if we all put a few of these habits into practice? What would your world look like? How would your interactions change? I’m predicting sunny skies ahead.

Here they are again! And here is the original article again. Check it out!

  1. They are empathetic
  2. They are humble
  3. They are vulnerable
  4. They have a sense of humor
  5. They are present
  6. They are genuinely interested in EVERYONE
  7. They avoid social narcissism
  8. They are generous and altruistic
  9. They reciprocate praise (and take blame)

Dayna Neumann

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